Sunday, April 13, 2014

Some Superheroes of Love Have to Face Some Mighty Battles


I went to see Noel Coward's A Song at Twilight at the Pasadena Playhouse last night. Brilliant: Roxanne Hart, Sharon Lawrence and Bruce Davison. I get there a little late which forbade me from reading this "Note from the Director" in the program prior to the play. I don't always read these. I think perhaps from now on I will. 

In the play Sir Hugo (played by Davison) is confronted by Carlotta (played by Lawrence) who is threatening to out him with letters of a long ago love affair with a man. Married for 20 years, and having become quite a famous writer, and yes, even knighted, the thought of having the love of his life revealed is terrifying.

I had previously read and forgotten the details of Gielgud's arrest mentioned below. Shame on me. Shame on all of us that gay men and women have to continue to fight to love who they wish to love.

Art Manke writes:

Love Will Be Found the Sweetest Song of All

After a couple of post-rehearsal drinks one evening in October 1953, the great English actor Sir John Gielgud (1904-2000) paid a visit to one of Chelsea's infamous underground lavatories to seek out companionship for the evening. Before gay clubs, bars, and online dating sites, this was a common practice among men seeking men in this west London neighborhood. On this particular night however, the man who smiled back at Sir John was a member of Scotland Yard's so-called Pretty Police: young recruits picked for their good looks and stationed there to entrap homosexuals. The next morning, Gielgud - who was identified as "John Smith" on the charge sheet -- was let off with a minor fine and urged to see a doctor. At a time when 12 to 18 months in prison was considered a lenient sentence, he was able to walk away virtually unscathed, or so he thought. Unfortunately, Gielgud's inimitable voice was recognized by a journalist who covered the arraignment, and by that afternoon, "Sir John Gielgud Fined" was the headline in the London Evening Standard newspaper. This led to the most sensational coverage of homosexuality in print since Oscar Wilde's trial in 1895.

Although he was able to continue working in the English theatre because of the staunch support of his fellow actors and producers and his adoring public, it would be another four years before he could travel to the United States due to the "moral turpitude" clause in its entry visas. He suffered a nervous breakdown, seriously considered suicide, and endured ongoing humiliation at the hands of conservative journalists and politicians who called for him to be stripped of his knighthood. Although attitudes about homosexuality started to evolve during Sir John's lifetime, and the United Kingdom's 1967 Sexual Offences Act decriminalized homosexual acts between consenting men, he carried the shame of the arrest to his grave almost half a century later.

It is important to know that A Song at Twilight was written and first performed in 1966, one year before the British Parliament ended its draconian punishment of homosexuals. So in the play, it is no wonder why Sir Hugo Latymer responds the way he does to Carlotta's proposition. Sir Hugo's every moment of existence is colored by fear of exposure, which playwright Noel Coward knew only too well, as did Somerset Maugham, Terence Rattigan, Emlyn Williams, Michael Redgrave, and countless other gay artists who carefully and methodically avoided "outing" in their lifetimes. The real loss for Sir Hugo is that he allowed that fear to prevent him from ever experiencing real love and true intimacy.

The play's title comes from the popular Victorian-era Irish song, "Loves Old Sweet Song (Just a Song at Twilight)," and the lyrics tell us:

So till the end, when life's dim shadows fall,

Love will be found the sweetest song of all.

Monday, March 24, 2014

Superhero of Love FUN: The Light Overcomes the Darkness!

"Behind Every Cloud is the Sun!"     
 
This was, shockingly, my first Holi festival.  Having been to India several times I can't get enough of anything Indian -- particularly their joyous festivals. This one is always around  my birthday, right at the beginning of Spring, and each year I have missed it.  Who wouldn't want to celebrate the triumph of light over dark?!  And, what sheer bliss to be covered in bright lucious colors! 
 
My friend and I arrived at the tail end of this festival.  We were two of only a few non-Indians and we were received with such love.  The color packets were all gone so a lovely woman with the hugest most lovely smile grabbed me by the shoulders rubbed water on my cheeks and then smushed her cheeks into mine so that she transferred color onto my face.  That was just the beginning of a day of love!
 
People came up to us from every direction with little bits of colored powder that they had left over.  In the end we got all the colors and looked fabulously festive.  Everyone was so generous and sweet and inclusive.  And, the kids were so playful, like this little one who chased me around with her water gun in those snazzy superhero sunglasses. 
 
 
Part of the fun is pouring water on each other to make the colors move, and to make your skin more accepting of even more color.  Her secret mission was to get me as waterlogged as possible.  She was hilarious!  I know she had a cape under that outfit!


We also had two superb dancers grab us and teach us all the right moves to the blasting Indian tunes.  It's just impossible to not have fun while doing Indian dancing!

So, if you want to celebrate the triumph of the light, get yourself to a Holi Festival next year.  They happen in Indian communities all over the U.S.  The largest, drawings 10's of 1000's is in South Fork, Utah.  Can you imagine the level of joy with that many people frolicking in one place.  A friend who has been said everyone is extremly polite too - even asking if you wish to have color thrown on you! 

Bottom line: this is a feel good holiday celebration if ever there was one.  If your heart needs a lift next spring, or you wish to mark the transition from winter to spring, google "holi festival [your town]" and see what you get!   You will be welcomed with open arms and love, I promise -- no matter where on this mighty planet you find yourself.

Namaste Superheroes!!!!

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Superhero in Training

It's no mistake that in contemplating the idea of being a Superhero of Love I started training for a marathon.  Last week as I did one of my last long runs before Sunday's LA Marathon I was doing the long loop around my house which allows me a steep uphill in the first third of the run and an equally steep downhill on my way home.  That final descent is nothing short of exhilerating when I am loose and feeling good.  

As I did it last week I felt like I was flying and started thinking about Muybridge's study of whether all four hooves of a horse were in the air at once.  I started contemplating the percentage of time both my feet were in the air.  As I came down the hill it felt like they were mostly in the air. Of course they weren't but feeling like a superhero is just as good as being a superhero.

The LA Marathon sends you a short video of your crossing the finish line.  As I jogged over it (and past it, by the way, for no really good reason other than I think I thought it would make up for the times I had stopped to walk toward the end) the event M.C. screamed over the loud speaker "Superheroooooooooooooooo!"  It wasn't for me but it was a mighty cool synchronicity that I didn't catch that day.



On Marathon day my Facebook feed was also filled with images of supeheroes flying through the air from friends cheering me toward the finish.   I hadn't actually thought of marathons as a superhero feat, but now that I'm in touch with my own ability to "fly" and do something I had no clue how to do. I'm declaring this as part of my Superhero in Love training. 

Love and life give us seemingly insurmountable hills and require endurance of the heart, mind and soul, so any practice can make the next challenge a little easier.  Expanded heart and lung capacity for increased breath and love is always a good thing for a superhero.

Friday, January 17, 2014

Superheroes Need Cheerleaders Too!

Don't you think cheerleading makes all superheroes try a little harder?  Of course it does.

I just realized how important it is in my life, particularly when training for my first marathon.  I feel like I should hire a fleet of them.

Click here for my Huffington Post article on this very superhero subject!

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

The Signature of All Things Superhero

I can't more highly recommend a book for a Superhero of Love in training:

http://huff.to/19QhMsa

I loooooooooooooooooved it!

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Superheroes Deal With Pain Too

I recently wrote this article for the Huffington Post, inspired by a confluence of things.  I have several friends valiantly battling cancer, several who have lost someone very dear in the last two weeks, not to mention others who in the last few months have lost someone unexpectedly.  And, the Sandy Hook anniversary just came around the bend.  I am in awe of everyone.  In awe.

I am training for my first Marathon which makes one contemplate pain in a new way as well.  I realized it's got some similarities to emotional and spiritual pain and discovered something that comforts me.

I hope you find it helpful: http://huff.to/1c1SiMo

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Brand New Home Built for the Superhero of Love





Real estate prices are going up every day.  It's home-buyer kryptonite.  So it was time for the Superhero of Love to buy a new house!

Check out her beautiful new internet home  at http://superherooflove.com